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Law of Detachment
If you are familiar with Deepak Chopra, then you know that one of his Seven Spiritual Laws of Success is the Law of Detachment. He describes the Law of Detachment as emotionally detaching from the outcome of every action you take. For example, have you ever been in a conversation with someone and you’re trying to remember the name of something, but it just won’t come to you? You just cannot think of it to save your life. We’ve all been there, right?
So the conversation ends, and you detach from it. You start to carry on a different conversation or do something else. Then all of a sudden that name you couldn’t think of pops into your head. That’s the Law of Detachment!
Detaching from the Outcome
In my opinion, this is probably one of the biggest laws of success when it comes to your business. I know it’s hard not to get wrapped up into every single action that we take and to not be looking for that outcome. But detaching from the outcome is crucial to your success.
For example, let’s say you have a great prospecting call, somebody tells you they’re interested, and you send a proposal or a contract. But then….crickets. You can’t help but be attached to the outcome of this call – and in turn the more you attach to it, the more pressure you put on yourself and that other person – unintentionally creating an negative or “desperate” energy around it. So much so that there’s no room for it to actually move forward. So the situation stays stuck much like your brain does when you just can’t think of that name!
One of the biggest things that you can do for your success is to learn the Law of Detachment and practice it. Now, I can tell you that it is difficult in the beginning. I know you work really hard in your business and when you feel really good about something, it’s hard not to be focused on the outcome. After all, we all want our businesses to be successful!
But think about it this way…when you can move on and move forward, that person also doesn’t sense the urgency and pressure that’s created when you are hyper focused on the outcome of that conversation. So the person you were on that great prospecting call with is no longer feeling the pressure and heaviness that is associated with YOUR outcome. When they see you moving on and moving forward, it makes them think, “She’s moving on. I need to make a decision.”
Detaching in Action
Let me give you a real life example: I had a client who had recently opened a new FB group. Inside of this group, she had asked a question to her audience to gain more knowledge of their struggles and pain points. Many people responded I saw that people were looking for something that she had already created, but wasn’t actively promoting. So, I brought it to her attention and told her she needed to offer the group this product. She had absolutely nothing to lose by actually putting it out there, sharing it with them, and saying, “Hey! I don’t know if you’d be interested in this, but here it is.”
Once she shared the offer, I told her to just walk away from it – not put any expectation on it, that she was simply going to offer it to them as a potential solution. I wanted her to completely detach from the outcome of it just knowing that she put it out there and somebody may or may not resonate with it.
She had gone away for the weekend and had not been on Facebook or thought about that offer all weekend. Sunday night when she got home and said, “Oh my gosh!!! I made my first passive income sale.”
This is what happens when you detach from the outcome!!!
My advice to you…
Detaching yourself from any outcome truly does take practice. Put yourself out there with no expectation of what it will turn into. Stop asking yourself questions related to possible outcomes of the situation. Go into it with no expectation and just let it flow.
You also have to trust the timing of it. Trust that things will work themselves out in due time. It is a game changer for your business. Being able to accomplish this is not easy. But I promise you, the more you do it, the more you’re going to start seeing things change.
We all want to be in a place in our business where things are just flowing to us in natural time. Focusing on the outcome disrupts your natural ebb and flow.
When you’re feeling stuck…
Think about the analogy of trying to remember a name that was mentioned at the beginning of this episode. You know you’ve been there, and that the second you actually stop trying to remember that name, it comes to you. I know you want to do the same exact thing in your business. So stop worrying about what the outcome is going to be and just keep moving forward.
I want to hear your stories! Have you had a time in your business when you detached from the outcome and saw amazing results from that? Share your story with me in the comments. Connect with me on Instagram. I want to hear how detaching from the outcome is working for you. If you haven’t had a chance to try detaching from the outcome, try it! Then come back to this episode and share with me how it went.
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