Let’s call it what it is.

There is so much stupid advice floating around social media, and honestly, it’s costing smart business owners real traction. I’m not talking about bad tips from bots. I’m talking about bold, one-size-fits-all statements from “big names” in the space. People with influence who should know better.

And I’ve had enough.

So, I’m kicking off a new series: Stupid Sh*t I See on Social Media That Makes Me Want to Scream (or Vomit, or Rip My Hair Out).

This isn’t just a vent session. There’s a deeper issue underneath all of it… and it’s time to talk about it.

Why This Matters to You

Maybe you’ve been here too.

You’re scrolling. You see a post that makes a bold, blanket statement about business, success, or your supposed “worth.” And suddenly, you’re questioning everything. You start thinking:

• Am I overdelivering too much?
  
• Is that why I’m stuck?
  
• Should I be charging more?
  
• Am I doing it all wrong?
  

You end up spiraling… not because the statement is helpful, but because it hits a nerve. And it sends you down a rabbit hole that pulls you further away from what’s actually working.

This is exactly why I had to speak up.

Social Media Isn’t Where I Choose to Own My Voice

Let me be real: I’ve got opinions. Big ones. And I used to keep them pretty quiet outside of private communities like Focused Visionary Accelerator.

But my clients started asking, “Why don’t more people see this side of you?” So I tried showing up a little spicier on Threads, just to test it.

Yeah. I remembered real quick why I don’t do that.

Because people get loud behind a keyboard, but the conversation wouldn’t be the same face-to-face. And I’ve done too much nervous system work to throw myself back into that mess.

I’ll own my voice on platforms like this, where tone matters, context matters, and there’s actual connection. Not random strangers hiding behind screens.

Let’s get into the three statements that pushed me over the edge.

“Overdelivering is people pleasing in disguise.”

This one. Wow.

I get it. We’ve heard this kind of thing before. But here’s what rubbed me the wrong way:

It completely ignores rejection sensitivity, especially in the neurodivergent community. Overdelivering isn’t always about trying to please someone. Sometimes it’s about avoiding the crushing feeling of being disliked, dismissed, or misunderstood.

And for many entrepreneurs with ADHD (hello, October is ADHD Awareness Month), overdelivering is literally how our brains are wired. That’s not people pleasing. That’s surviving.

Not to mention that overdelivering is why my clients stay. It’s why they refer others. It’s built loyalty, long-term relationships, and a rock-solid reputation. I’m not apologizing for that.

So no, it’s not a helpful blanket statement. And it sure as hell isn’t a strategic one.

“Coach: I offer 3 calls for $10K. Also Coach: Can you manage my socials for $250?”

Cue the eye roll.

This was posted by a service provider, and when I commented on it, I got backlash like, “That’s a pretty bold statement.”

But let’s talk facts: If you’re charging $10K a month for 3 calls and turning around to pay your social media team next to nothing, there’s a serious problem.

The coach gets paid. The support team doesn’t.

We talk a lot about charging your worth, but somehow that only applies to the person at the top. Meanwhile, the people actually helping drive visibility: your social team, your content creators… are expected to work for pennies.

It’s broken. It’s toxic. And I’m not here for it.

“The most important skill in your business is learning to write sales copy.”

This one had me laughing. And then raging.

Because I’ve been that entrepreneur who believed it. I’ve spent thousands of dollars on courses, coaches, and programs trying to master copywriting. I thought that if I could just write the perfect sales page, everything would click.

Spoiler alert: It didn’t.

You know what actually brings in sales? Conversations. Value. Relationships.

I convert through voice, through strategy, through honest dialogue. Not some perfectly crafted headline.

So no, copywriting is not the most important skill you can learn. Especially if it’s not your zone of genius, and especially if your brain doesn’t work that way.

And let’s be real: If you’re a sales copywriter who claims to serve 6 and 7-figure business owners, why are you trying to teach them how to write their own copy? Isn’t the point to hire an expert?

Make it make sense.

What should you do when social media advice triggers you?

Here’s how I keep myself grounded when this kind of nonsense starts swirling:

• Check your nervous system. If you feel that tightness or tension rising, pause. That’s your body telling you it’s not worth it.
  
• Ask yourself: Does this apply to me? Not every piece of advice is meant for your business model, your brain, or your goals.
  
• Own your strengths. Maybe you’re not a writer. Maybe you’re not charging 10K. That doesn’t mean you’re doing it wrong.
  
• Find your platform. Not all voices belong on social. Speak where you feel seen and heard.
  
• Stop giving weight to strangers. If someone doesn’t know your business, your values, or your goals, why are you letting them shape your strategy?
  

You’re More Aligned Than You Think

If there’s one thing I want you to take from this, it’s that most of the stuff that shakes you? It’s not even about you.

It’s recycled advice. It’s shock value. It’s hot takes with no depth.

And you? You’re doing the real work. You’re building with integrity. You’re thinking critically. That already puts you ahead.

So trust your gut. Trust your process. And please, stop letting these statements derail your momentum.

Because if no one else has told you lately, let me say it loud: You’re doing just fine.

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